Monday 5 Things” ….. Beyond the Binoculars …..
26.07.20 by D. Paul Graham
Because Mondays are easier when you remember that perspective isn’t where you stand. It’s where you choose to look.
“Look Again.” Sometimes it takes a child to remind us that wonder begins where attention does. Photo by D. Paul Graham, Kiawah Island SC, 2026
Last week on Kiawah Island, I watched our granddaughter Nellie study the marsh through a pair of binoculars. She scanned the tall grass, followed birds across the sky, and pointed excitedly toward things the rest of us had either missed or ignored. Nothing in the marsh had changed. What changed was her attention. Binoculars don’t create anything new. They simply help us notice what was already there.
Watching Nellie, I realized that children still expect the world to surprise them. They look closely because there’s something worth finding. Adults often glance at the same view and decide we’ve already seen it.
I’m sometimes guilty of that. I move quickly, thinking about the next appointment, the next project, the next photograph, or the next problem to solve. I can stand in the middle of something beautiful while mentally living somewhere else. Nellie was completely present. Every bird mattered. Every movement in the marsh grass deserved investigation. Every shape on the horizon might become a discovery. Every movement in the water could be a dolphin or possibly even a mermaid.
Watching her reminded me that seeing isn’t merely a function of eyesight. It’s a function of attention. Two people can stand in the same place and see entirely different worlds. One sees an ordinary marsh. Another sees birds, movement, reflections, mystery, and perhaps an alligator best appreciated from the safety of a deck.
What we see often depends on where we choose to look. In front of us. Behind us. Beside us. Above us. Below us. This morning’s M5T looks at looking again and changing our perspective.
1. IN FRONT. SEE WHAT’S POSSIBLE. Most of us spend a great deal of time looking ahead. We make plans, set goals, schedule meetings, book trips, create budgets, and occasionally convince ourselves that next Monday will finally be the Monday we unsubscribe from emails we have been deleting for six years.
Looking forward is natural. It’s where possibility lives. But there is a difference between looking forward with anticipation and looking forward with anxiety. Anxiety tries to predict every obstacle before it appears. It studies an unwritten future as though there will be a test at the end of the week. It fills empty space with imagined problems and then asks us to solve them before breakfast.
Possibility looks at the same empty space and sees room to build. The road in front of you will rarely be completely visible. Life doesn’t usually provide turn-by-turn instructions. More often, it gives you enough light for the next few steps and quietly waits to see whether you will take them.
We often delay moving because we want certainty. We want guarantees that the decision will work, the relationship will last, the business will succeed, and the path will lead precisely where we hope.
Certainty is rarely the price of admission to a meaningful life. Courage is. Look in front of you, but don’t demand to see the entire journey. Look for the next honest conversation. The next necessary decision. The next act of discipline. The next opportunity to become slightly more courageous than you were yesterday. You may not be able to see the destination, but that doesn’t mean you can’t see the direction.
What do you see in front of you? A future to fear or a possibility to enter?
2. BEHIND. SEE WHAT HAS TAUGHT YOU. There’s value in looking behind you. This is why cars have rearview mirrors, history has textbooks, and families have relatives who remember everything embarrassing you did as a teenager.
The past contains lessons. It shows us where we’ve been careless, courageous, generous, stubborn, wise, and spectacularly wrong. The rearview mirror was designed to inform the journey, not dominate it. Some people live almost entirely looking backward. They replay old failures, revisit old disappointments, and carry former versions of themselves into every new room. They allow a decision made years ago to continue casting votes in their present life.
Others romanticize the past so completely that nothing happening now can compete with it. The old job was better. The old neighborhood was friendlier. The old music was superior. The old cars were certainly more beautiful, although they also required a mechanic, a prayer, and favorable weather to start. The past deserves respect, but it does not deserve control.
Look behind you long enough to identify what the experience taught you. Notice the roads you survived, the people who helped you, the choices you would make differently, and the strength you developed without realizing it. Then face forward again.
You are not required to erase your past. You are required to stop confusing it with your future. Your scars are evidence that you were wounded. Scars also prove that you’ve healed.
What do you see behind you? Is the view a collection of regrets or an education you couldn’t have received any other way?
3. BESIDE. SEE WHO’S WITH YOU. We are often so focused on getting somewhere that we fail to notice who’s traveling with us. We look ahead toward the next achievement. We look behind at what went wrong. Meanwhile, someone beside us is offering encouragement, friendship, patience, or coffee, and we barely look over at them.
Life isn’t only shaped by the goals we reach. It’s also shaped by the people who stand beside us while we’re reaching for those goals. Some walk beside us for decades. Others accompany us for only a season. A colleague teaches us something. A friend steadies us during a difficult year. A stranger says exactly what we need to hear at just the right moment. Sometimes a granddaughter with binoculars teaches us to take another look at the world again.
Not everyone beside you will applaud you. Some will challenge you. Some will question your assumptions. Some will tell you that your brilliant idea is neither brilliant nor technically an idea. Some will flat-out want you to fail. Those people can be gifts too.
A meaningful life requires companions who provide comfort, but it also requires those who provide perspective. We need people who believe in us and people who love us enough to disagree with us.
We should also ask what others see when they look beside them and find us there. Do they see someone attentive? Someone dependable? Someone who listens without immediately turning the conversation back toward themselves? Someone who remains present after the excitement has passed and the work has become inconvenient?
Being beside someone is more than occupying nearby space. It’s the decision to notice, to encourage, to carry, and to occasionally sit quietly without trying to repair everything.
Look beside you. Someone may be helping you more than you’ve acknowledged. Someone may also need you more than you have noticed.
What do you see beside you? Do you see people who are merely present or relationships worthy of your presence?
4. ABOVE. SEE SOMETHING GREATER. There are moments when life requires us to literally look up. Sunsets, architecture, stars, and objects falling from improperly secured shelves come to mind.
Looking up, philosophically and spiritually, is essential. Overlooking the marsh, it was impossible not to look upward and thank God. Sunrise drew me into possibilities of what He had in store for us that day. Sunset drew me into reflection of His grace woven through the day. Both quiet reminders that creation doesn’t hurry, yet everything arrives for a reason at just the right time.
Looking above reminds us that we are not the center of the universe. A fact most of us accept intellectually but often forget in traffic. Faith, in part, begins with that upward glance. It’s the recognition that there is a wisdom greater than our own, a purpose beyond what we can immediately understand, and a God who sees more of the road than we do.
Looking up can radically change the scale of our problems. Faith reminds us that preparation and control are not the same thing. We can be responsible without believing everything depends on us. We can work diligently without imagining that we are the sole authors of the outcome. We can pray, act, trust, and then release what was never ours to carry in the first place.
Faith doesn’t always give us the explanation we want. Sometimes it gives us the strength to continue without one. There is humility in looking above. It reminds us that our vision is limited. We see the moment. God sees the whole. We see the closed door. He may see the danger behind it, or the better path beyond it. That does not make disappointment easy. It makes trust possible.
Look above long enough to recover your sense of awe. Pray before you panic. Listen before you assume. Trust before you conclude that the story has gone wrong simply because it hasn’t gone according to your plan. You don’t have to carry the whole world. You are simply called to be faithful with the portion placed in your hands.
What do you see above you? An empty sky, or evidence that you are part of a story written by Someone who sees farther than you do?
5. BELOW. SEE WHAT HOLDS YOU UP. We rarely think about what is beneath us until it becomes unstable. Floors, foundations, tires, bridges, trust, character, cash flow. Each tends to attract considerably more attention once it begins making unusual noises. What is below us supports everything above it.
Our visible lives are built upon largely invisible foundations of habits, values, disciplines, relationships, promises, and small decisions repeated when nobody is watching. We admire the finished building, but the foundation did most of the important work in the dark. The same is true of people.
A meaningful life is rarely held together by dramatic moments alone. It rests on ordinary practices of returning the call, keeping the promise, keeping your faith, telling the truth, arriving prepared, apologizing sincerely, saving consistently, loving patiently, and doing the right thing even when the wrong thing would be easier.
Looking below also reminds us to see those whose work is often overlooked. The assistant who keeps the office functioning. The technician who prevents the system from failing. The server who notices what everyone needs. The parent handling a hundred invisible tasks. The friend quietly carrying burdens they have never mentioned. Much of what supports us goes unnoticed because it works.
Look below the surface. Examine the assumptions beneath your decisions. The habits beneath your achievements. The motives beneath your ambitions. The people beneath the success you are tempted to call entirely your own. Then ask whether the foundation beneath your life is strong enough to support what you are trying to build.
The marsh doesn’t become more beautiful by reaching higher. Its strength comes from what lies beneath it. The roots, the tides, the mud, and the hidden eco-systems quietly holding everything together. Sometimes the wiser choice is to strengthen what no one else can see.
What do you see below you? Is there something ordinary underfoot or the hidden foundation holding your life together?
Here’s to a week of taking second looks.
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Paul continues to look ahead with hope, behind for perspective, beside him for LA, above with faith, and down for alligators.
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